I have a similar story, years ago,many ladies joined the DAR on the name of Reuben Bates Jr. (1771-1853) instead of his father, Reuben Bates Sr (1731-1800), who is listed as a soldier on "War 4 page 94" thusly:
Bates, Reuben - Soldier of the Infantry - pd. by Mr. Duval on March 4, 1783 - 36.0.0
PRIVGATELY I would like to send you a two page TIME LINEcovering Reuben Bates Sr. (1731-1800).I have much much more
That is If you would care to share your screen name with me.