I haven't tried this in PAF yet, but I have used Generations for a long time - in both its' Word 97 transfer report file and graphic charts - where it says "&" (the supposed spouse name), I put in parenthesis "companion" before the father's name. If the couple is no longer together I put (former companion). This works well. I leave the marriage date blank. But I agree with you - genealogy programs should wake up and join the real world!