Kim, this won't help you but here is Matilda's information from the Victoria newspaper (you may already have this)
JESSE - The funeral of the late Mrs.Robert Jesse Sr. who passed away last Friday took place yesterday afternoon at 2:30 p.m.Reverend A. deB Owen officiated.The floral offerings were many and beautiful consisting of every conceivable design indicative of the esteem in which the deceased was held.Walter Hamilton, Robert and Herbert Alexander the deceased lady's three sons also Mr.R.H.Fort, a grandson were pallbearers.
There was no information at all indicating when robert Senior died. I did notice, however, that on the B.C. Archives website there is pictures of this family , have you seen them??