I have been trying to locate Olive Kelly Barnard's grave for several years. Olive is the daughter of William R. KELLY and Alcey KIRKLAND. She was born March 1833 in Abbeville, Henry Co, Alabama and died May 1920 in Alabama. She was married on 15 Oct 1848 to Elisha Smith BARNARD in Henry Co., Alabama.
As luck would have it, the husband of another of Olive's descendants saw my genealogy data online and contacted me a few weeks ago. His name is Jack Maxwell, and he and his wife live in Decatur, Alabama. Jack and I have spoken on the phone a few times, and I mentioned to him that I didn't know where Olive had been buried. Jack said they were going to take a trip through Alabama and would look for Olive's grave.
Jack managed to locate a copy of Olive's obituary. The newspaper obit states that Olive would be buried in Abbeville next to her husband. This was great news; I had been to Abbeville about three years ago and located E.S. Barnard's grave in the city cemetery. Jack went to the cemetery and found it had been badly damaged in a storm. He did locate Elisha's grave, and noted that there is a small concrete marker (no engraving) next to it. There is a monument company in town that has been contracted to repair the damaged headstones (including Elisha's). They were able to confirm that the body next to Elisha's is of an adult caucasian female (Olive!).
I would like to get an engraved headstone for Olive's grave. I wanted to see if any other descendants want to participate in the cost of having this done. Jack has already said that he would participate. I don't think it needs to be elaborate, but I would like it perhaps to show:
Olive Kelly Barnard B Mar 1833 D May 1920
I had a similar one done a couple years ago when I located some of my great-grandparents' graves (they were buried side by side and neither had a headstone). The combination one with both names and dates cost about $250.
Olive was my great-great-grandmother. I descend through her daughter Mary India Barnard who married Lewis Daniel Snell; their daughter Verlie Snell is my grandmother. Verlie was very interested in her genealogy, and it was with her notes that I began my ancestor 'quest'. As such, her family lineage has always held a special place in my heart, and I seem to focus a lot on coming up with the answers she never found.
Along this line, last year I got my father to participate in a DNA test to prove the Kirkland lineage from Caleb Kirkland (Olive's grandfather). All of my research had indicated that Olive's mother, Alcey Kirkland (1809 - aft 1882), was the daughter of Caleb Kirkland (c 1772 - c 1840). However, Jim Peacock (who published Kirkland Family Roots last year) did not consider it proof positive and would only say that it appeared she was Caleb's daughter but that there was the potential that Alcey descended from another. The DNA test was done on my father and another of Caleb's descendants. The test they did had to be from the female side (e.g. Caleb's wife), as the DNA is passed down from the mother. So sons get their DNA from their mother, but it's not passed on to their children. So my dad's line went: Sarah "Sally" (married to Caleb Kirkland), Alcey Kirkland, Olive Kelly, Mary India Barnard, Verlie Snell, George Athey. The test results were a match, so we were able to confirm that Alcey Kirkland was in fact the daughter of Caleb Kirkland. An interesting note is that another person has matched to this DNA, and she's not aware of this family! She is somehow related to Sarah ___ Kirkland. I have started doing some research on this, as I believe it will ultimately provide us with Sarah's lineage. As of present, no one knows the parents of Sarah. So we begin to put cracks in another brick wall!
Forgive me for rambling, but I wanted to give you as much background as I could. Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like to participate in getting a headstone for Olive. If you have other ideas about what you would like to see on the headstone, please let me know. We will get a consensus before moving forward with it. I will then see if Jack will check into the price of having it made, and let people know the cost of such. If you are in contact with other descendants of Olive's, please make them aware of this 'project' and have them contact me if they would like to contribute.
If you are unable to contribute but are related to this line, feel free to get in touch with me so we can compare notes! I am always happy to share my data and research with newly located cousins!