Mary Jane, I am also descended from and interested in the Harrell family.The following information may help you a little.
John Rutledge Harrell(died abt.1837 in Anson Co., NC) and his wife, Stacy Rushing had the following children (not in order of age): 1-John R. Harrell 2-Bryant Harrell (lived Sumter Co., Ala. and Scott Co., MS) 3-Elizabeth Harrell (married George W. Wimberly) 4-Jane Harrell (married Bud L. Myers) 5-Mary Harrell (married John P. Rushing) 6-Abner Harrell 7-Martha Harrell (married Joel Lowry)
It does not appear that your widow Elizabeth Harrell is the wife of one of the children of John Rutledge Harrell and Stacy Rushing. However, you mentioned the carrying down of the "Rutledge" name to a brother of your John Jesse Harrell, so I would guess, almost certainly, that the husband of your widow Elizabeth Harrell was from Anson County, North Carolina, and closely related to my John Rutledge Harrell who married Stacy Rushing.
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John B. Windham email@example.com Metairie, Louisiana