I'm looking for the family of Joseph Alexander and Henrietta Smith (Delano) GRAY.
This couple was on the 1860 census for Holland, Ottawa, Michigan, along with their son, James Alexander GRAY (b. ca. 1858).Joseph is listed on the 1860 census (p. 461) with occupation as "carpenter" and born in NY.However, family tradition (and all other "official" mentions of him) give his birthplace as "Ireland".(The 1860 census is the only one so far with birth information actually given by Joseph himself, tho, so I don't know what to believe is correct -- Henrietta WAS born in NY, so it's also possible the enumerator just made a mistake when he recorded birth info for Joseph...)
Their son, Joseph Henry GRAY, was born in 1863, and their daughter, Sarah Ruth Delano GRAY (my great-grandmother) was born in 1865, both in Holland.
Joseph Alexander GRAY (b. 1829) was apparently dead by 1880, the next time I find the family on the census (have not yet found them in 1870), since Henrietta (b. 1831) is listed as a widow.
When did Joseph Alexander GRAY die?Where?What was the cause?(I find it curious that he didn't live longer than 50, since I have pictures of him in which he looks to be about 100...)
The next "official" mention of the GRAY family that I've found is when their older son, James Alexander GRAY, dies in Greenwich, CT, in 1875.Henrietta's siblings were then living in that area, so I suspect that's why the GRAY family moved there.(However, neither Greenwich Vital Records, nor their Historical Society, has any mention of Joseph Alexander GRAY...)
BTW, the surname of this family is mistakenly spelled "GAY" in the LDS records, so it may have been recorded someplace else as that, too.
Any clues as to what happened to Joseph Alexander GRAY and family between 1865 and 1875 would be appreciated!