Hi Andrea - I'd like to help. First step to helping on Genforum is usually to check out the posting history of the person with the question. That's because sometimes the same question is posted elsewhere and has already been answered. Checking your history led me to realize that you have received fabulous help from volunteers in the past, in different forums in various years, to whom you have not responded. I hope that you'll change this habit and participate actively in the search to find the answer to this particular query - at least that you will be active enough to acknowledge and respond to volunteers (like me).
Tried to find Bernard in Minnesota with his parents. Below is a history of the records I found - none with Bernard and Lawrence togetther.
1865 census Lakeville, Dakota, Minnesota Barnard Corr Ellen Corr Mary Ann Corr John Corr Chas Corr
1870 census Lakeville, Dakota, Minnesota Bernard Carr, 40, b Ireland Ellen 30 Mary 8 John 7 Charles 5 Maggie 3 Elizabeth 1
I presume you have Bernard's father's name (Lawrence Carr) from Bernard's death record?
In looking for Lawrence Carr in Minnesota, I find a man of that name and the right age in Scott County, Minnesota. Do you know whether that is the right Lawrence Carr?
Looking at the Minnesota Historical Society census records I find the following. People are listed as individuals, not as family groups. Thus the census transcriptions below ARE NOT a COMPLETE family record.
Dakota County and Scott County are next to each other and would be worthwhile to study boundary line history - but basically, Lakeville where Bernard Carr lived is near Spring Lake/Shakopee where Lawrence Carr lived.
1857 Spring Lake, Scott, Minnesota Lawrence Carr, 46, born about 1811 in Ireland Ann Carr 35, born about 1822 in Ireland
1865 Spring Lake, Scott, Minnesota Lawrence Carr -
1875 Spring Lake, Scott, Minnesota Lawrence Carr, 65, born about 1810 in Ireland Else Carr, 54, born about 1821 in Ireland
1880 Shakopee, Scott, Minnesota Lawrence Carr 71, born about 1809 in Ireland, retired farmer Ann Carr 60, born about 1820 in Ireland, keeping house
1885 Shakopee, Scott, Minnesota Lawrence D. Carr 75, born about 1810 in Ireland Ann Carr 64, born about 1821 in Ireland
Also in Shakopee, a Lawrence Carr 42, born about 1843 in Ireland - a possible brother to Bernard.
Clearly the above family is not solidly tied to your Bernard Carr. Before working more on this, I'll wait to hear from you and then proceed from there. Looking forward to it...