Do you have her CW Pension file?This would be a great resource for you.
1890 Rio Arriba Co NM Vet Schedule Magdalena MADRIL widow of Rafael CARRILLO;1st NM Vol Cavalry from 7-11-1861 to 6-11-1864.He died from a wound to left leg rec'd during the war. She filed for pension 7-7-1896.
If I have the right family, were they divorced, but still living together?
They had dau, Maria Delfina CARRILLO b 9-27-1885 St Joseph, Park View, Rio Arriba NM.