Thanks for replying! The notification has never worked for me and I joined in Jan. It's pretty annoying, but I think the whole forum could use an upgrade.
I will check the library for obits, thanks for the link.
The only thing that is weird on that 1900 census, even though Grace's birth date matches up, is that I found William Cassidy 's WWI draft card and it lists his birth date as Aug 5 1899. Soeither he was mistaken on what year he was born or that is not the right Grace?
The only information I have on Grace's first husband is that he was a drummer and was maybe shot and killed.