NY Vital Records - The New York State Department of Health files vital records for events occurring in New York State outside New York City. Registration started in 1881. Information about genealogy services available from the New York State Department of Health may be found at http://www.nyhealth.gov/vital_records/genealogy.htmhttp://www.nyhealth.gov/vital_records/genealogy.htm
They may have been buried on the family farm.
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