Have you contacted April, the person who posted on findagrave?She seems to know quite a bit about this family. John Paul's death info states his mom's maiden name is MEDDLINGS. 1940 Herman and a MEDDLINGS family are in Hamilton Co, but they both could've had more kids after this census. familysearch.org
John m Diane GLADWELL 4-5-1988 Hamilton Co; she's still living, as of 2008 Norwood OH [her bro's obit online]
Resthaven Cem is online...quite a few PRATHERs listed, including Herman and Ethel.Herman's mom's name is HAMMOND.