Both people's families appear to have connections in Union, Licking, Fairfield, Morgan, Vinton, and Muskingum Counties in Ohio.
Note that Abigail Wilcox's orbituary has her as born in Fairfield, Ohio. She is believed to have been an Atwood. Her mother is thought to have been a Mary. I believe the orbituary is off on the birth, but that Fairfield County, Ohio was likely where she spent much of her young life giving rise to the apparent error on the orbituary. All of the data given by her has her born in Virginia. She marries a William Harvey Wilcox in Licking County, Ohio at about the same time that William Harvey Wilcox's father, Joseph Wilcox, marries the widow Mary Atwood, who has children on the 1840 and 1850 census. Please help with any data on these two, and use freely of course what I have. I was hoping that with more information given, this may help others and perhaps someone can help me with my mysterious widow, Mary Atwood (born about 1801) and showing up in 1840 Ohio with several children in Licking Ohio, then marrying Joseph Wilcox (also his second spouse). In addition looking for data on Abigail Wilcox (who by family oral tradition was born in Virginia, was an Atwood also, and had a mother with the name of Mary---all of which could be off some, but has usually been right on with data as found).
It seems that after his first wife dies, Joseph Wilcox (from New York, now residing in the Licking County, Ohio area) takes as his second wife, a widow, Mary Atwood. Mary has three Atwood children at the time at least. In an 1840, Union Township, Licking County, Ohio census, she has more!, but some have left the home by the time the 1850 Harrison Township, Licking County, Ohio census lists children. She has then two more children with Joseph Wilcox. She can be found on the 1840 Ohio cenus as Mary Atwood, on the 1850 as Mary Wilcox, and through a census taker error, on the 1860 census (again Harrison Township, Licking County, Ohio) as Mary Tracy (one daughter married a Tracy, she was living with this daughter when the daughter's husband was gone ((civil war likely)) and all the people in the household got listed as Tracy's). On this 1860 cenus it lists that Mary is from Delaware--------but with the little effort placed on this cenus data gathering, it is likely that Delaware was the place that her daughter's husband, Mr. Tracy was actually from.
Mary has repeated census data on down through descendants that primarily have her as from Virginia.
Meanwhile, at about the same time that Joseph Wilcox is marrying the widow Mary Atwood as his second wife, his son William Harvey Wilcox is marrying an Abigail (who much later--1911, died in Terre Heute, Indiana). By weak family oral tradition, Agibail was supposed to have also been an Atwood, and had a mother with the name of Mary.
This looks suspicious for two widowed adults marrying when one of each of their children marry also??? Abigail is also listed as born in Virginia and parents from Virginia, as should be the mysterious Mary Atwood and her unknown Atwood husband.
Abigail seems to be a recurrant name in James Joseph Atwood's family line from Culpepper, Virginia (1760 to 1798) and several of his children went to Ohio when he died and his second wife remarried. (Thomas, Nancy, James, and Gilbert). Two of of his children (Mary 'Molly' and I think an older Thomas from his first marriage) end up in Indiana. All of the Virginia Atwood's I can find in the Licking, Fairfield, Muskingum ect area of Ohio in the early 1800's go to this line. Of course there is a Massachusetts line in the same area of Ohio descended mainly from Jonathan Atwood ('Colonel') to confuse things more. It seems that an earlier son, another older Thomas, and sister Mary 'Molly' Atwood came from James Joseph Atwood's line and went on to Indianato settle.
Mean while, with Abigail, presuming (?) that the family oral tradition is correct, with her name, and her nameing her first daughter Permilia/Parmilia (suspicious for a respecting of Nehemiah Atwood and wife Permilia (childless, of Gallo, Ohio and from Virginia and tied to the Gilbert Atwood group), and Abigail also names her first son James, probably in respect of her father or uncle. Abigail also names a daughter Mary (presumably for her mother Mary).
The mysterious widow, Mary Atwood (of about 1801 to 1882) who appears in Fairfield and Licking Couties in Ohio, has the following Atwood children: George Washington Atwood (1832 to 1905), Rachel Atwood (born 1833), and Thomas H. Atwood (abt 1833 also). On the 1840 census, she has two sons, and three daughters, leaving at least one more daughter somewhere, and possibly with either George or Thomas being a couple of years older. Also, on the 1850 cenus in Harrison, Licking County, Ohio, she is listed as being from Maryland, but all the later census data that she gave throughout her life mentions that this Mary came from Virginia as did her first husband, unknown Atwood.
I would much appreciate it if you could help shed light on this confusion.
Stan Handshy firstname.lastname@example.org