If I tell you how I found my ancestor Cyrus Bosworth Sr.burial spot...perhaps it will help you in your search:
My ancestor Cyrus Bosworth Sr. died on April 4, 1861 in Warren, Trumbull County,Ohio. No where could my cousin who lives back in that area find his burial.I later wrote to every cemetery at Warren, near Warren, etc...even funeral homes, Warren's library (genealogy section), court house, the road maintenance dept (they take care of some of the cemeteries...I think they do the actual opening of the burial spots),etc.No one could tell me where he was buried.A lot about him and his family were written in the newspaper (even his death date) but not his burial spot. And he was a well know citizen of the community.A mystery...indeed.
I emailed every possible GenForum site I could think of in relation to where he might be buried.And this (GenForum) is where I "found him":
A wonderful stranger emailed me and said she was going to walk Oakwood Cemetery in Warren,Trumbull County, Ohio and would keep her eyes open for my ancestor Cyrus Bosworth Sr. (which was nice...but I thought 'a needle in a haystack..no way could she find him'...my cousin had asked Oakwood Cemetery once already.
Well...she later emailed me back that she (rather her husband) found Cyrus Bosworth Sr. burial site at Oakwood Cemetery....right there in Warren, Ohio! And a huge headstone no less..right near the entrance in the older section.
I thought...how could this be?My cousin once asked Oakwood Cemetery if our ancestor Cyrus Boswosrth Sr. was buried there and after they looked at their records, they said "no".
Explanation?? So simple (but was not told to my cousin): Oakwood Cemetery opened 1848-1849,The office books dated 1849-1887 left the office for some reason and never returned...Oakwood Cemetery has no idea where those recordsare...thus all burials between 1849-1887 at Oakwood Cemetery are not in their records at the office.
Just one of those things in life.
Only after I phoned the cemetery (I live in CA) and told them my ancestor in deed was buried there....did they explain that they have no records between 1849-1887 (the office people were very nice ..in fact all those I contacted at Warren, Ohio are wonderful people..very polite and really went out of their way for me..even the Red Cross..their office is next to the very old Pioneer Cemetery in town and one of their employees looked for my ancestor there while on his lunch break...he did find part of my ancestor's family but not ancestor Cyrus Bosworth Sr.).
I hope this will bring back hope to you in finding your ancestor. Hearing the words "he's not here"...doesn't necessarily mean that.
Good luck....never give up....for when you least expect it...something wonderful happens :-)