Yes, I did get your original message. I appreciate the kind offer. I am actually doing a family name study on the whole Hendee family. My research includes all of the names you mention. My wife's great grandfather, Horace Jackson Hendee, was born in Pittsford, Vermont on 4 Mar 1842.
I would appreciate whatever information, military or otherwise, you could supply relating to Abner, Asel, Caleb, Daniel, Samuel and Jesse.
Caleb Hendee did have a daughter, Ruth, but she is not the Ruth Hendee I am currently researching. I am looking for Ruth (Hendee) Carter, the mother of Dr. Horatio S. Hendee of Lowville, Lewis County, New York. She married Judge Phederus Carter (or Cartter) 1 Jul 1835 in Lewis County, New York when Horatio was already about 9 years old. I am still trying to find the parents of Ruth (Hendee) Carter and the father of Dr. Horatio S. Hendee.