Duuuuh on the obit! Should have thought of that myself. Thanks so much for reminding me to do that.
As far as Pauline Winkler in Sheboygan, that would not be this Pauline. The parents are there, and they are not the right ones. However, I think she might be the one in the 1870 census who's working as a domestic for a Hale family in Milwaukee.
Anyway, thanks again! I'm off in search of her obit.