You give no dates - makes it difficult to help you.
But I have a Thomas J (as above) son of Columbus Washington Abernathy (b 1826 Lincoln Co d Connellys Springs, NC) m Sep 20 1856 in Mecklenburg Co, NC to Mary Ann Kistler b Aug 5 1835 in Charlotte NC d Aug 7 1924. They had 9 children; T. J. was 2nd oldest. He married Ella Mundy in 1883 and they had 9 children.
If this matches, I have more on the family, but you can get all this from Brian A's web page, I believe.