Hello Joyce...seems like were both looking for Missouri ALEXANDERS. I'm looking for my Gr Grand mother Mary Emaline Alexander, b. abt. 1841, in either Kentucky or Missouri. [ I have heard both ] She married Jesse Swope in Warrensburg, Johnson Co. Mo. in 1865....lived and died North of Sedalia in Thornleigh.
She might have had a sister named "Susan", I found her in the census in the same area as Mary Emaline.