Jane, I doubt that we have much information on New Jersey Alfords although our treasurer lives there.I cannot possibly say if the southern Alfords are related to yours since we don't know for sure exactly when they came or exactly from where in England. Also not all of them came at once and not all to the same places.We have several different Alford families originally from VA with no known connection.Some came before 1700, others came later from England, Ireland and possibly even from Scotland. There were also New England Alfords who migrated much earlier and we do know where they came from and to whom they were related but that was in the 1630's so I don't know if we can connect yours to theirs either.We do have a group which we are calling the UK Group who are looking in England for connections for more recent migrants to the US, to Australia and to other places.Perhaps they could be of help. As to who may join AAFA--the answer is anyone.My closest Alford ancestor was my great-great-great-grandmother. Do you have actual ship records, naturalization papers or other documentation of their coming in 1880?Do you have any English records of Elizabeth's birth or a possible marriage for her parents? Do you have a copy of Elizabeth's death certificate which should give her parents' names and birthplaces? I will check our database to see if we can be of more help.