Hi Bill, I personally don't have proof - but I usually try to follow the children of a couple to figure out what is what. Here is what I see on the internet (a lot of confusion!).
There seem to be several William Grider families with different children. One William is William Murray Grider with parents Frederick,Sr. of PA (b. 1752) and mother ellen Murray - so that would make sense. but it says same date for this William as all other william Grider - b. 3 May 1785 Burke, NC Died 1 Jan 1856 in Claiborne Parish, LA buried same - BY SELBY COOK - doesn't give any spouse names, but says married twice. Also says this William Murray lived Burke County, NC Jackson County, TN, Adair County, KY and then LA. He cites the 1830 Census of Claiborne Parish, LA. doesn't give any children.
Now: Harold A. Danfort of worldconnect.com cites 1850 State Census of Jackson County, AL William Grlider (note sp) - age 66 B. NC farmer wife: LUCY age 60 born NC daughter Sarah age 16 - born TN
so I believe there were two William Griders - one in LA and one in AL
under www.google.com: Malinda Grider b. 1812 KY , died 1884 father: William Murray Grider b. 3 May 1785 Burke, NC mother: Mary Perry - b. @ 1790 NC children: Malinda (above), Ananias, Sarah
Another lists Mary Perry as dau of Ananias Allen and Anne Laxton - but I don't find that anywhere else.
Malinda Grider married George W. Bullington descendant of Nicholas Bullington - those of Eng who came to VA -
www.google.com says that the above Malinda who married Geo.W.Bullington was daughter of William Grider and Lucy Allen.
George W. Bullington was born 19 Nov 1811 in Sandy River, Pittsylvania County, VA and died 22 Mar 1884 Putnam County, TN supposedly Malinda Grider b. 1812 and died 1884 Putnam Cty, TN married 1831 Jackson County, TN
William Murray Grider b. 3 May 1785, Burke, NC - died @ 1856 father John F. Grider - mother Tabitha Isabell Blair William M. Grider married Lucy Allen b. @ 1790 NC - parents Ananias Allen and Jane Laxton CHILDREN: ANANIAS b.@1808 died @ 1856 Melinda( could this be Malinda?)B. @ 1812 John Sarah Thomas b @ 1835
ANANIAS Grider married Jane Bullington, sister of Geo. W. Bullington
So we have two sources: Harold A. Danfort with 1850 Jackson AL Census and another Wayne Irwin both on worldconnect.com
LDS site: William Grider married Lucy Allen 1810 William Grider son of John Grider and Isabella Blair - married Mary Perry b. @ 1789 Burke, NC father John Grider was b. 11 July 1755 MD d. 3 Oct 1838 Henderson,TN
So this is not the same as Grider of PA !
LDS: William Griderb. 3 May 1785 Burke, NC married Lucy Allen b. @ 1790 NC d/o Ananias Allen and Anne Laxton Children: Amos, John, Luck (who are these kids?)
Another LDS: William Grider b. 3 May 1785 Burke, NC son of John Grider and Isabella Blair married Mary Perryb. @ 1789 married @ 1809
Another LDS: William Murray Grider b. @ 1779 Burke, NC father: Frederick Grider - no mother known Frederick Grider b. @ 1746 PA
ANOTHER LDS: William Grider b. 3 May 1785 Burke, NC married Lucy Allen in 1810 - she born @ 1790 NC father of William Grider: John Grider died 3 Oct 1838 Hendersoln, TN buried Grider Cemetery, Henderson, TN mother: Isabel Blair b. 1758 VA - died 15 May 1855 Henderson, TN buried Grider Cemetery, Henderson,TN
father of Isabel Blair: Colbert Blair - b. 1730 PA and died @ 1805 Blairs were from Eng>Greensboro,NC died Guildford , NC - buried Alamance Cem. Greensboro,NC in Cedear Valley Methodist Church Cemetery.
worldconnect.com Susan Allison-Willmot: William M. Grider b. 3 May 1785 Burke, NC "some records Gryden" married Mary Perry b. 1788 - married before 1804 children: Nancy, Hyram, Jan (Jane?), Hugh, Clay, John Catherine, Mary A.
These are different children than Ananias, Malinda, John and Sarah -
So I do believe you need to keep on track with following the children and the census records - they seem to be reliable.Another record: burial - a tombstone would probably give exact date of Lucy Allen birth and death and if children are buried nearby - would give some names - that would be clue as to WHICH WILLIAM GRIDER SHE REALLY MARRIED! I DON'T THINK WILLIAM GRIDER WHO MARRIED LUCY ALLEN WAS MARRIED TWICE - I think these are two different marriages - perhaps by cousins with same or similar names - by parents who may have been kin -