I have no connection to this family, just thought I would see what I could find. I was a little confused by your post--the 1845 birth date should be for William Henry ? I find him in Crawford Co., KS in 1870 single . I also find Permilia in Crawford Co. in 1870 evidently a widow. Living with her is son Thomas B. b. 1859 IN and U.S. Grant Allen b. 1865 KS. So I went to1860 and found Permilia and husband Reuben, living in Mt. Pleasant, Gates MO.Census shows Reuben b. SC 1821 So I backtracked again to 1850 and found them in Fall Creek, Madison IL. Census shows Reuben b. NC 1821. I'm sure this is correct family because of children's names and ages. If you don't have access to Census Records, let me know and I will send you the information that I found.