Dora, My line is also from Joseph Allen father of your Joseph. My line is from his brother Samuel (b. june 8, 1736 d. Oct. 10, 1816). I have recently visited the cemetery in East Windsor to photograph graves of my line. Your Joseph's grave is there as is the grave of his son Samuel of my line. It may be possible that Samuel's brother (your Joseph MAY be there. If so, his wife may be buried with him and MAY answer you question. The cemetery is Scantic Cemetery and I will be going soon. I will look for you. Let me know if this would help.