It's nice to hear from you.I wish I could be more polite with the amenities but I'm going to have to make this quick, as I am on my way out for a doctor's appointment.
I will skip the details for now and will do my diligence to get back to you soon with the proofs, etc., but here's what I have in the stuff I'm looking at right now:
Your Rhoda Benthall is the daughter of Laben Benthall (Sr.) and Mary Lassiter(?).
Laben is listed in the data on my large Benthall posting, I believe.If not, he is one of the 10 children of Joseph Benthall, Sr., and Mary Lassiter.There is no accidental repeat of names here with the 2 Mary Lassiters.I don't know how they're connected exactly, but I believe Laben and his wife were 1st- or 2nd-Cousins.I also see a note where Mary may have remarried a Lassiter, so I'll have to scope that out for you and let you know.The Lassiters (and the various spellings thereof) is an area that I've just not had much time to study out thoroughly.
I do have quite a bit on the northern Tennessee kin, as about half of Joseph Benthall's sons settled there and about half of his daughters did also, all pulling up stakes in North Carolina one by one and two by two, as it were, from about the mid-1790's on for the next couple of decades.Then my own Baben Benthall's son Jesse, and some of his North Carolina Cousins decided to also move to various parts of Tennessee, sort of like to join their Benthall uncles and aunts which had already gone West.
I've got a bit more on the Carters as well, or at least some possible clues as to older or contemporary Carter family connections with your Alexander.
Here's a very fast FGC:
Laben Benthall (c.1750-c.1802), m:
Mary [Lassiter?] (_____-aft.1816?)
1) Willis, m: Darcas Potcet-1823-Sumner Co.TN
2) Rhoda, m: Alexander Carter-1809-"""
3) Enos (never marr.) (d:1816--was a War of 1812 veteran)
4) Mary, m: Robert Bonds-1812
5) Daniel, m: Frances Patton-1822
6) Laben, Jr., m: Levina Lannum-1824
Daniel & Laben Jr. were twins, b: 25 Feb 1802 in Northampton Co., NC.Laben Jr. d: 21 Aug 1884 in Gibson Co,TN, bur: Mt.Zion Methodist Church.
Willis Benthall had a son named Enos, b. c.1823.Willis may have also married a 2nd time to a Theresia ________.I think I got that idea from her being on a census instead of Darcas.I'll see if I can figure it out what I meant by that note.
There is some confusion as to locations and dates etc., which I know will come up quickly, so I'll give this theory of this families summary movements to you real fast, then I've gotta go.
I think that in about 1795 or 96, Laban Benthall, Sr., moved to Smith Co., TN from Northampton Co., NC.His daughter Mary was apparently born there in about 1796.Then Laben gets ill or something, and in 1798 in Smith County makes out a "Deed of Gifts" to his four children that he had at the time, perhaps assuming that his death was near.This document serves virtually as his Will, but is about 200 years ahead of its time in avoiding inheritance taxes.He simply gives his property away to his young children.But Laben recovers, and lives until about 1802 or even 1803, probably in Smith County.Yet, he or his wife Mary has traveled back to North Carolina for some reason, and is there for the Feb 25, 1802, births of twin sons Daniel and Laben Jr.I actually believe that Laben either died just before his sons were born, or died just afterward and didn't have an opportunity to make out a new will to leave them anything officially in writing.This would seem to explain the origins of the above Daniel and Laben Jr., and some of the moving around.
Of course, there could be some vital data that eluded me in my search for these people, which might dive these twin boys a different set of parents entirely.I would wonder if any other Benthall researcher has placed them anywhere.I couldn't figure anything else out.Also, keep in mind that Laben could have traveled back and forth in just such a fashion, for his 93-year-old father Jospeh died in Nov 1798 in Northampton Co., NC, and he may have made two or three trips back there so settle business and estate issues---perhaps sometimes with his family accompanying him.In fact, I'll have to check, but he may have been one of the executors of his father's Will, or he may have inherited property there and had to dispose of it.It may even be that in 1798, Laben makes his "Deed of Gifts" in anticipation of the death of his father and the knowledge that he would be traveling back to NC.Maybe in this light, he thought it best to have his own estate in order before making the mountanous journey eastward.
I don't really know.
Oops, gotta go.