Hi,Jack:I cannot say for certain that it is the same family. John was born in Germany in 1826 and was in Ohio by at least 1854 when he married his first wife. There is evidence that he was there by 1850 as Caspar Bodenbender who is his father (I believe) is in ohio by then. Caspar was born in Germany about 1783. I believe that they may have entered this country thru Philadelphia somewhere around 1833 or so.it is quite possible that they would have remained in the area for a few years before migrating to Paulding County, Ohio.JOhn may have had an older brother named Henry who would have been about 4 years older. I believe that their mother died in Germany, but this is not substantiated to my knowledge. John's age could be right to be related to Charlotte, either as a younger sibling or perhaps a nephew. Bodenbender is an unusual name and so there is the definite possibility of a connection. Sorry I cannot be of further help.