I'm still not sure this totally clarifies things. The 1850 census contains two Jared BOUTONs who are fairly close in age, and whose wives are fairly close in age. There is a Jared BOUTON age 71 and Polly age 65 in Naugatuck CT, as well as a Jared BOUTON age 67 and Martha age 58 in Lewisboro NY, with John F. (preseumably BOUTON), age 27. In 1870, Martha BOUTON is living in the household of Joseph Benedict in Lewisboro. According to Barbar Kaye, there is a tombstone in North Stamford Cemetery which says "Polly BOUTON, wife of Jared, died Jan 14, 1846 at age 70." (Hope that's correct, Barbara).