I research the Irish Family History Foundation's database. It contains 12,000,000 surviving rcds for abt 65% of Irish counties. Rcds are increasingly sparse B4 1840, rare B4 1800.
Note 1 - Without a KNOWN county, the chance of an ancestor's rcds NOT being in this database is AT LEAST 35%.
Note 2 - Only 1/2 of Co. Cork's rcds are in this database.
Note 3 - The RC church kept control over most parish rcds from Tipperary (north). These are ONLY available thru the Tipperary Family History Research center at a substantial fee (regardless of outcome).
Co. Londonderry rcds aren't in the database yet. Suggest you wait until they are. This may take a long time; be patient.
For Ellen Hayes B 1839 +/- 2 yrs, Co. Cork, with the father's forename unknown, I found 8 rcds: 1828, 1829, 3-1830, and 3-1831. Father's forenames were Charles, David,John, James, Michael, Patrick, Denis, and Denis. You will need an exact DOB, parent(s) name(s), and/or placename(s) to pick which, if any, rcd is the right one. Suggest you find this info in NZ civil/church sources.
Google the Foundation's name to lead you to this database. Register, opt to be notified as rcds are added and browse. Pls post your search results to my genforum msg.