I know your email does'nt work anymore, but I've been trying to get hold of you.I am fairly certain now that we are definetly related.
I have found Arthur's information, and as far as I can piece together, I think you might be my Dad's cousin.
My great grandfather, Arthur Alexander Fenn was born in Ipswich in 1878.Married Janetta de Kock in Rhodesia and moved to South Africa where he had Simon Thomas Fenn (my grandfather nicknamed Jack) and a multitude of other children.His wife Jeanetta died very young, in 1924 at the age of 37, in childbirth.The little girl she gave birth to, Evelyn Janetta Fenn died 5 weeks after birth, and is also buried with her mother in Durban.The children of Arthur Fenn were then scattered in foster homes/orphaneges, which is probably what happened to your mother.
Arthur's occupation is registered as a photographer on his marriage certificate to Janetta.
I would be thrilled if you could get back in touch with me.