I don't know if we're talking about the same family but my ggrandfather's name Estel Nathanial Gary. He was married 3 times, I believe, and the one wife I remember most was named Lilly. My ggrandmother's name was Ida Kelley and was his 1st wife, I think. However, I think his dob would have to be earlier than you mentioned because my grandfather, his son, was born in 1900. They lived in KY, WV and, lastly, in OH. My Estel Gary died in 1974 in Ohio.