Hi Mary, Yes I finally found Sarah Ellen about 2 yrs ago, I knew that she had lost her parents at a young age. She is living with her aunt Susan VanDiver, Mary Susan Grindstaff was married to a Michael hayes before she married Goerge Vandiver. As far as I can tell she had at least 3 children by Hayes and 6 by George vandiver.
I have since been in contact with another descendant of Sarah Ellen grindstaff's and she told me some family stories that were great, but I am not sure what happened to her as she has not returned my emails. But anyways, she had mentioned that she had thought there were 2 more children born to this union of Isaac Grindstaff & Mary J. Barns, possibly a Jasper and another son/daughter.These Grindstaff's are a tricky bunch to track down and sort out.