Hi. My name is Theresa and I just recently started looking into my mother's family history and have found your postings.
My mother is the daughter of Bernhardt Harder. We have known (from family stories) that there were brothers that went to the war and their names are on the town clock in their memory. I always thought Frank and John went to war and never came back because they didnt have any family. But they settled in the US!
Reading from this correspondence however has raised some questions for me. Is Bernhardt really a brother to John and Frank? Your discussions about children from several marraiges might explain it. I have a photo of my grandfather with his parents and siblings that are all girls! I know some of them are Lilly and Rose (twins), there is Cecelia and Alma. Are these the cousins you mentioned that you met in Auckland. You also mentioned you met a Christine Harder with red hair. That might've been my mother's sister. She would be about 60 now.