You sound like a very understanding person and for you to find out in your thirties that you were adopted would indeed have been a shock.I think sometimes its the knowledge or lack of that frightens us and I must admit me included.So I think you can see both sides of the situation and by reading your email you show compassion to their feelings. I went out with my girlfriend today and I was literally bursting to tell her of what has happened it the last 24 hours.Like me she was stunned and were talked and talked. Hey guess what my birthday is in September as well the 25th, the Year well I have a BIG SISTER now I was born in 1955, you are 5 years and 15 days older then me but who's counting.I worked it out that Dad must have been 18 when you were born I felt upset when he was turned away and he couldn't see you.
Because my girlfriend and I gasbagged most of the day I didn't get home to just on 6 oclock and my daughter had already gone to work.She will help me tomorrow and try and get me to correspond with you more freely instead of going through the forum.I have two children Annie, Girl and a boy what about you. Have a good night Annie and as you said stay calm and we will take one step at a time and get to know each other.Kind regards Glennis.PS Annie did you find me through the message on the forum? Do you know I put that on there 4 years ago. Seeya