Mary:See my postings immediately previous to yours. I see two things that are interesting about your John Irey b abt 1850. The first is the middle or first name Wesley or Charles Wesley which indicates they were members of the Methodist Church.Being Methodist suggests they were of Welsh extraction. The original Welsh settlers were here in the mid 1600's and lived along the upper east branch of the Brandywine Creek in Chester County PA.
Secondly you say your grandfather Charles or Charles Wesley was born in 1890 and is buried in Arlington Cemetery across from Upper Darby High School. This is a huge cemetery on Lansdowne Ave in Upper Darby Twp. started back in the days when Upper Darby was rural. Today it is almost part of Philadelphia. My grandmother was Elva Irey and she lived within walking distance of Arlington Cemetery.
She was born in 1899 and had a brother Biels who died in the '20s in a car wreck. He had a daughter Gwendolyn who my grandmother raised. Their father was Maris Irey b abt 1860 and d 1962. They say he was definitly over 100, and his father was Silas Irey. All of these Welsh Chester County Ireys who could arrange it are buried in the Methodist churchyard in Glenmoore. There is probably a connection here, but there were so many Ireys.
We can assume your great grandfather was alive when your grandfather was born and next time I'm there I will look for a marker for John Irey m Alice b abt 1850 and d after 1890.If they were really from Kentucky we may not find a grave, but there may be a record of a Christening or a wedding. Why do you think they were from Kentucky, why was your grandfather buried in PA, and if they were from Kentucky when did they go there?
I would love to ask someone, but these people are all so doggone dead they can't help us. Are you in the Philadelphia area?