Hello Michael We might have a connection. My great-grandmother Mary Stackpole (known as Marion Stackpoole in NZ) had a possible cousin named Mary Stackpole who was living in Lynn, Mass., U.S. in 1875 when she (Mary S. of Lynn) posted a "Missing friends" advert in the Boston Pilot newspaper looking for her cousins Roseanna, Barbara, Mary & William who were last heard of (by her) in Melbourne, Australia. Do you have any more information at all on your Mary Stackpole who married (possibly in New York City) Thomas P. Lahey in 1878? Her age? Her death date? The names of her children? Anything. I have information on Stackpole (& variant spellings) in Ireland, England, Australia, NZ & some on French lines, but little on the USA lines. I'm willing to exchange information.