A Lot of Loders lived in Missouri. My GG Grandfather was Sylvester Price Loder Who Married Sophrnia Ellen Owings in Sullivan County Mo. He was living in Milan Mo. I believe he had a brother Isaac Loder also living in Sullivan County. Isaac had a wife Sarah Ann Miller and had 9 children after their Marriage in 1880 but I see no Ray Loder.If anything rings a bell or you find out anything , Please let me hear from you.