Thanks for the information.I had some but not all.
It seems that some of the McElyea family tried to hide things and in doing so possibly embellished some stories.For instance if Daniel F McElyea was the son of Humphrey McElyea then I have some doubt as to Humphrey being a participant in the War of 1812.I've found Humphrey as being born between 1792 and 1796.If he was born in 1796 then he would have been barely 16 years of age.It's possible but even back then there was a toss up - grab them for service or keep them home on the farm with their mother and younger siblings to make sure they food on the table and money to food some of the staples.
Then if the grandfather who lived to be 104 years of age was Daniel's Grandpa McElyea that's very debateable.Based on elimination and census records I've come to the conclusion that Humphrey was the son of James McElyea.Jams and Humphrey were both living in Weakley Co TN in 1860.In 1870 Humphrey is still there but James has disappeared.I haven't been able to find any gravestones for the McElyea's in Weakley Co but suspect that both died there and was buried there.If James was still alive he would be in the 1870 and 1880 census (if not the mortality schedule) as his birth was about 1776 which would place his death in 1879/1880 or at the worst 1881.It's possible that the grandfather referenced is his maternal grandfather, but since there's no name indication I think most people would naturally assume McElyea.
I believe that the two Daniel McElyea's you found are most likely one and the same.Family stories has it that Daniel did have a brother Robert and as you found Robert died young and then his minor children were placed as wards under Daniel's guidance.
I had been taking a rest from the McElyea family but now you've got me thinking about some things and will have to see what I can do about solving some of the mysteries.It took me about 20 years to track down one couple (my husband's gr-gr-grandparents) only to find out they were divorced sometime between 1880 and 1900 after over 20 years of marriage.Seems odd back in that time period.I questioned one cousin about the whereabouts and burials of the couple and all of sudden he abruptly stopped the correspondence.Guess he didn't want to admit the truth.