Sue, When I first read your message I thought... "But George Neese never married." But this was George M. Neese who wrote the book "Four Years in the Horse Artillery." After the Civil War he lived in New Market, VA. Obviously we're talking two different Georges. However, I'm sure there has to be a connection between the James Neese I'm looking for in Wythe County, VA. The men in the family were lumbermen; not very unrelated to "carpenter."
Please email me if you have any info on the James you mentioned. My records show that James Neese married Catherine King and had nine children. I have their names, their wives names, and their children.