Not too confused, but first: I have the husband of Arcada Smith as Jesse Jasper Parchman, b. 26 Nov 1812, Stewart Co., TN; d. after 1880, when they were on the census in Spring Hill, Houston Co., TN, son of John Parchment and Margaret. Jesse and Arcada did have a son named Jesse Milton Parchman, b. c1843, who m. 2 Sep 1883, Stewart Co., TN, Mary E. Bayer.
John Jasper (Coon) Parchman, b. 8 Apr 1853 (tombstone; 1910 census says 1852); d. 16 Aug 1923 (tombstone); bu. J.J. Parchman Cemetery, Cumberland City, Stewart Co., TN, did indeed m. twice.
He m.1 11 Oct 1874, Humphreys Co., TN (Humpreys County marriage Records,Book C, in River Counties, Jan 1975, 34) Sallie C. Weakly, b. c1854, TN (1880 Houston Co., TN, #125: Sallie Parchman, 26, TN; parents b. TN; wife); d. 1880-1888. THey had four children: Jesse J. Parchman, b. c1876, Houston Co., TN; George W., b. c1878; William O.C., b. c1879, and Guy P., 1880-1959, bu. J.J. Parchman Cemetery, Cumberland City, m. Margaret E., b. c1887, TN, d. after 1910.
He m.2 4 March 1888, Houston Co., TN (Houston County marriage records, in River Counties, 1984, 143)Martha Dora (Medora) Tomlinson, b. 21 Oct 1859, Stewart Co., TN; d. 8 Sep 1914; bu. J.J. Parchman Cemetery, daughter of William Abbott Tomlinson and Mary Ann Powers, whose father, Arthur N. Powers m. 3 Lucy (Lanty) L.T. Dowdy, daughter of William Dowdy's m. 1 to Rebecca Hall.