I do not know if we are talking about the same Tobias, but this is what I have:Ephriam Ricker, who married Susannah Leighton, the parents of Tobias Ricker who married Abigail Warren on June 24, 1784 in Berwick, Maine. They are of the George Ricker branch of the Ricker family.
Tobias, Susannah, and Ephriam are buried in the Ricker-Berry Cemetery in Buckfield, Maine. I visited it 3 years ago.It is a small family plot at the edge of the woods behind the farmhouse that they built. Over the Fourth of July the local boy scouts decorated Tobias's grave with a small American flag commemorating his Revolutionary War Service.