I do have some information on the Rigsbee families of Durham Co, but unfortunately I have nothing after about 1905. I'm trying to avoid living people in my database, so I don't research anything more recent than 100 years ago.
There was a Sterling or Starling Rigsbee born about 1863 in Wake Co. He was a son of Thomas Rigsbee born about 1820 and Matilda Stanley. That is probably too early to be your Starling, but perhaps there is some relation.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help. If you do manage to get back beyond 1905 I will probably be able to figure out how you fit in.