Hello Susan. This is your not cousin John Rexford Peterson.Rexford as in Elmer Rexford. Who are you named for? Sorry about your divorce. Nasty thing. Congrads on the new marriage. You are right about a few things. Rex (Pop) was a terrific man, defender of propriety, privacy and honor. Took it a bit far when he stabbed that guy in the head… yes the one who made a similar comment to yours about my mother and grandmother, but what the heck. The guy who never so much as mumbled a word that I wasn’t his blood and was so proud I was his only grandson. This is the guy who would take on ANYONE who cast disparaging remarks about women, let alone his woman—so I hope there are no ghosts. You should also check out who Elmer Rexford really was. My mother died a few years ago and I too investigated “our” heredity. Perhaps you should watch out who you go around calling bastards and illegitimate. I only found out then about my mother’s bio father a few years ago after mother died. Yes the bio father who married my grandmother and left her and sick baby Janice, after 2 years of marriage in the midst of the Great Depression, the one whose name is on mother’s birth certificate and on my grandmother’s marriage certificate. But that’s another story. Janice, my mother, respected you for the obstacles you overcame and how you succeeded with your handicap of being deaf. Too bad it was very preventable and only happened through neglect, to you poor children growing up on Carpenter Street in the slums getting loans and money from the father (Rex) who was vilified by the Freers. It is also tragic that your drunken mother and selfish father, did NOTHING to help “your” idealized Grandfather when he was sick. I don’t remember old uncle Chuck around with Rex was in the hospital… or you or your sisters—or your mother for that matter. Are your comments about my mother and grandmother a result of bitterness about not getting the vast wealth from your grandfather? This is the same grandfather who was charged by your great-grandmother Freer to see his own children, despite his supporting them financially also. Speaking of money, did you get the money my mother and your “grandmother” Lora Lee sent you. It was quite a lot as the records show. Check with mom, maybe they pocketed that too. But that’s another story. And who are the whores? Who was there with her family money to support the fledgling welding company. Certainly not the poor Freers and certainly the NOT poor Drapers and Gentrys. But that’s another story. It was my Grandmother (the one Rex took in) who cared for your father like a son when he was in trouble and my father, also not a bastard, who befriended him when the other "family" wouldn't and he’d run away to the navy. I seem to remember your father weeping openly at my father’s funeral, morning the loss of his “brother-in-law” and friend. Is that before he decided to blackmail my mother for her lineage. But that’s another story. How he couldn’t take time to attend your beloved grandfather’s funeral. And your mother who called me at all times of the night in a drunken stupor, accusing your father of cruelty. And do you know the particulars about Rex’s marriage to your lovely granny Avice Freer and how much time elapsed between their marriage and your father’s and aunt’s birth. “A little instant gratification isn’t worth it son” Rex told me after an operation to remove a cancerous kidney. You might ask about your mother’s blind jealousy of my mother because your plain, homely and unpopular mother wasn’t in with the popular girls. Lovely Jan Rae who couldn’t hang out with the rich girls, being the daughter to a simple (was that widowed?) high school teacher. Oh and where is grandpa Tripp? But that’s another story. Then there’s how your lovely grand-aunt Francine tried to blackmail my er, you grandfather and my grandmother for more money when uncle Russell died, the uncle who was an employee and some years made more than Rex and Lora, the owners. As for the genealogy of POP, it was Pa when I was 6 months old and mother and I lived with he and Lora. That’s I called him from my Swedish background and then I later called him Pop. Also you should do some research into your grandmother's background... and your sister Carol. Is she still gay? Long story too I guess but that’s another story. So that's it from here. Enjoy your research. Cheers.