This is great. You are definitely who my sisters and I remember as our cousin Betty.Well, I don't remember, but the one sister I've talked to so far is excited as well.
To verify, your mother was Loretta--yes? You lived in Rhode Island after your dad died. A few of your facts are wrong, but that's understandable. My dad died in NYC, but later everyone went to California at different times. He and I attended the wedding of cousin Janet (I think it's Janet) in Boston, daughter of Peg and Warren.
Do you recall my sister's names, and my mother's? Write me at firstname.lastname@example.org so we can move off this forum.
Write when you read this. There's a small crowd waiting for you.