I've been researching the Selves family off and on over the past few years, and I'm trying to assemble a single family tree - it's a very unusual name, so it should be possible to join up all the different branches. Anyway, it's rare that I see someone mentioning my particular branch of the family, so I was very interested to see your posting, and I apologise for not noticing it before now. Anyway, I think (and it's a guess, not proven) that your Amelia Elizabeth Selves was the daughter of John Selves, who was born in Staplehurst in 1876, and was killed in the First World War, at the age of 38. He was my great-great-uncle.
If you have any information, I'd love to hear from you.