You said Theodore was "with" Virginia Ingersoll and that he later "married" Lillian Ingersoll.Your contrasting use of the two words euphemistically indicates he didn't marry Virginia.I can only base a reply on what you said, and what you said implied he didn't marry Virginia.I'm sorry if I mis-interpreted what you said, but I'm sure you can see why I interpreted it the way I did.
By the way, you might want to check out the "Terms of Service" you agreed to when you posted to GenForum, given on this page:
specifically, Item 5A, which states that you will NOT:
" Post, transmit, or otherwise make available any material that would violate another person's privacy or other rights."
Hence the reason for my suggestion to not make this quest for your living kin online, and especially not here.I can only repeat my suggestion that the best way to find your living family members is to personally telephone the SIASes in southern California.