Thank you so much for this information.I know very little about my grandmother's life - people didn't talk about divorce in those days apparently and I was discouraged from asking her questions about her earlier life.Her eldest son was killed in the war and her husband disappeared (with a woman so family folklore goes)in Germany whilst working there immediately post WW2.
My great Aunt May (your family member) lived in a flat in Scarborough, Yorkshire, after she and Great Aunt Ivy moved from the family home in Skipton.She was physically extremely fit into her early 90s and when I visited her in Scarborough hospital after her stroke, she was sitting up in bed with her arms around her knees with her long pure white hair hanging loose down her back.I had always seen her with it in bun and didn't realise it was so long.She looked really well but could only speak in gibberish following the stroke and didn't know me - she was there only briefly before she died.We have an old oak stool of hers which she used to reach things with as she was very tiny. My parents went to her funeral in Cumbria - Bentham was it?
It is all so interesting to finally find out some details at last.I had no idea the workhouse was involved (although I have some 18C relatives on my father's side who are registered as having died in the workhouse in Edinburgh!).I am named partly after my grandmother and she was also my godmother, she lived with us for some time before she became too disabled to be cared for at home (as my mother was also disabled).And I didn't know she was a milliner but it explains to some extent my mother's sewing talents sadly not inherited by any of her daughters. My mother's middle name was Mary.
My mother's sister - Ina's middle daughter Josephine - mentioned shortly before she died (and after my mother's death so I couldn't check it out with her) that my grandmother and your relative May, had a sister (possibly Mary?) who became pregnant by the gardner on the estate where they lived in Skipton.Mary (?) was given some money to open a bed and breakfast business in Morecombe Lancashire (?).The story goes that they decamped to South Africa but I have no way of knowing whether this is true or not.
No I haven't subscribed to any genealogy websites yet.I need to update my computer before I get down to any serious research.Also each time I think I have a wodge of time to myself to get on with it - something always occurs to take precedence.C'est la vie no doubt.
I am not clear how you are related to May Hazelby and in your first message you mentioned someone called Norma?Thank you so much for the information you have given so far I really appreciate it.