This could most likely be Catherine Van Alstyne, born 16 Mar 1742 in New York City and died 29 Sep 1799 in New Bern.She was married on 16 May 1763 to Jacobus Slover, son of Jacob Slover and Sarah Van Enden.
Jacobus died in 1776; killed, most likely, by Indians, as he was found died to a tree and scalped. Catherine later remarried to a British Officer with the surname of Smith, who, at the end of the Rev War, went back to England after leaving some money with her.He promised to return but was never heard from again, according to family members in Hadler's book.Catherine and Mr. Smith had a son, Thomas - unknown birthdate.
Catherine's parents were Abraham Van Alstyne and Elizabeth Blom.
When I first researched the Smith connection, I wondered if he was one of the officers buried, standing, in that tiny British enclave in Beaufort (I believe?) - but then I read on and realize that he hightailed it back to England.I wish that I had known a Slover was buried in New Bern while I was there; I would have liked to have taken a photo of the stone.