You need to learn more about how to do genealogy, so you won't find it so frustrating.That is, about what kinds of records are available and how to search them, so you are less dependent on people simply telling you what you want to know.As for where I got the information I supplied you, I give the Sources for everything I find on each family group sheet.Using Arthur's page as an example,
You can see I depended in part on the censuses, which are your most important resource in genealogy.I also took data from the SSDI.Below these primary records are listed secondary sources.If you don't see a primary source for something, you can assume it came from one of the general, secondary sources listed last.Were these my kin, I would be looking to support every datum with a primary source.As it is, my page is partly original research (the census extractions) and partly a compilation of secondary information, which may or may not be correct.
No paper connection has yet been made between these STRAUB and my STRAUBs, so I don't know if we're related.DNA testing would give the answer immediately, but no one descended from Arthur's ancestor has yet been tested (my line has been tested).
My interest here is STRAUB, so I cannot really help you with you PAUL genealogy.I found in a post in the Paul Forum that you have your grandfather's birth certificate (b. 17 Jul 1910, WA).The SSDI shows a Francis PAUL, b. 17 Jul 1910, d. Jul 1968, last residence Columbus, Franklin Co., OH.I would certainly get Francis's death certificate and his Social Security application to see what's on them.In the 1910 census, I did find Martin R. PAUL (æ 47, b. PA) living in Willamette Pct., Cowlitz Co., WA (p. 176A), with his wife, Bertha (æ 34, b. PA); Francis was not born yet.
The Oregon Death Index (online at Ancestry.com) shows a Martin PAUL died 15 May 1919 in Portland (Cert#1617), which would explain why we don't find Martin in the 1920 census.I would certainly go for the certificate to see what it says and to be certain it's "your" Martin PAUL.
You first locate someone, then look in the records of that county for details (e.g., deed, taxes, wills, divorces, adoptions, etc.).The local county libraries and LDS Family History Centers can help you.The LDS holdings are inventoried online:
You're biggest problem with surname PAUL is that it's a very common surname, so you have to be careful to not accidentally mix up people with the same name.
As for your "family history," that's really a separate issue from your "genealogy."You may never know much more than you know now.In my opinion, what's important is the kind of person each of us is, not who our relatives were.
But, forgive me, if you are going to talk so disparagingly in public about your kin, you will never get anyone to open up to you.I would recommend you ask forum management to delete the message you just posted, for that reason.Doing so will cause this message (my reply) to be deleted, too, but that's OK with me.