First place to start is with her death certificate. Although Death records are filled out by others...so errors and omissions do happen....it is a good place to start.This will give the informant (usually a family member) and place of burial. Then you can check with the cemetery for any additional info they might have. With luck the death certificate may even give father & mothers full names.
If you know: "name was Mildred Trafton at time of death (August 1973)in Modesto, Stanislaus, CA"
Then this is her California Death record....note it gives the 'day' of death on this record so it will be easy to order a copy:
California Death Index, 1940-1997 Name: Mildred L Trafton Social Security #: 530099702 Sex: FEMALE Birth Date: 1 Mar 1896 Birthplace: Oklahoma Death Date: 27 Aug 1973 Death Place: Stanislaus (county)
Her is her Social Security death record: Social Security Death Index Name: Mildred Trafton SSN: 530-09-9702 Last Residence: 95350Modesto, Stanislaus, California, United States of America Born: 1 Mar 1896 Died: Aug 1973 State (Year) SSN issued: Nevada (Before 1951)
Is this the Social Security number you are using??........if this is not the social security number that they gave you....what is it????I will try to find it that way.