I found Posey Whalin in 1850 Census in Rappahannock Co., VA with his wife Susan and several children and also his parents William Whaling and Susan in their 80's
Then Found Posey Whaling in same place in 1860 and 1870. There was one more child with them in 1860 and their daughter Susan was at the bottom of the page living with the Carr family. I believe Frances Carr may be the eldest of Posey's children. I also believe there was one more son older than Susan.
You have to look for different spellings. Waylan/Wayland/Waylin/Waylon...and also Whalen/Whalin/Whaling...even Whelan sometimes.
I am descended from Posey's sister Miriam/Mariam/Mary M. Whalen who married Alexander Scott. Their son William was my great great grandfather.
I would like to hear from any of you who are descended from Posey or any of his siblings. I also want you to know there seems to be ANOTHER Posey Whalen/Wayland close to the same age who comes from Stafford/Fauquier/Culpeper Whalen's. I thought they were the same but two other researchers have full lines on this family and though the names seem similar the dates and places do not match up.