Have spoken to my mother tonight and here is some more information. I haven't all the dates yet but can perhaps provide some links anyway.
Bithia Wellingham m James F Tooley. Bithia was the daughter of Samual Henry Wellingham m Lavina Wyman. My great great grandfather was John Wyman Wellingham (sister of Bithia)m Matilda Harriet Wyman b 1853. There were 3 children Willam John, Cyril and Hilda. Their parent died when they were quite young and the children went to live in Bedford with an aunt Edith Tooley - a daughter of Bithia and James.
I have also found out that possibly Mary Ann Wellingham was married to James Tooley b 1806 who seems to be the father of James Tooley who married Bithia.
There appear to be strong links between the Wymans and the Tooleys with marriages between the families over several generations.
i would love to see a picture of the sampler as we have one in our family too - it is with my aunt and my mother can't remember the name or date on it - but it is definitely a Wellingham email is firstname.lastname@example.org