I went to local meeting of our genealogy club and they gave a how to find people with your dna. There is a site to go to familytreedna.com . You order a test for 12,24, 37 marker kit. When it arrives you use swabs one side of your mouth then the other. And then mail it back to the firm and 6 wks. they send a list of people who have the same markers or close to it. The test for 12 marker kit 99.00 but,if they find someone it done complete privacy. So if want talk to someone they both of you have to agree to be contacted. So if you can't find someone and keep running into that brickwall this is something to checkout.