My grandfather was Paul kirtland, his father was John Kirtland & mother, May Durham, May Durham was the daughter of Harris Kinley Durham, Harris Durham was the son of Thomas R. Durham & Margaret Wyly. I cant find any evidence that James Wyly is the father of Margaret Wyly.Margaret Wyly did have a brother, James Kinley Wyly. James Wyly, the brother of Harris Kinley Wyly did have one of his wives named Barbara. But I cant find any other connection. I dont know if Stephen was named after Stephen Douglas, I have his middle name as Collett.what do you think?